The time of separation and the beginning of the divorce proceedings are very delicate periods of time, where much can be healed or much can be destroyed, with long term consequences for all the people involved.
Emotional consequences of the trauma caused by divorce or separation, without proper care, can last years after the divorce proceedings.
Just like a broken leg: if it wasn’t fixed properly when it broke, it will keep on giving problems even years after the accident occurred.
Early intervention can bring amazing results.
The Powerful Man Reinvention Strategy is my Programme created to help you learn how to cope with your difficult emotions, keep performing at work and manage the impact of the breakup on yourself (and any children), while you rebuild your life.
I am the Emotional Wellbeing & Life Coach and I facilitate your healing process.
Divorce support for men can be an alien idea to many men, as they aren’t used to ask for help and/or to discuss their feelings with other people.
I often hear people saying these types of things to men:
- Man up
- Be tough
- Men don’t cry
- Find someone else and forget her
I completely disagree! Men are persons with feelings, they are going through very traumatic events and they need to be given the tools to support their journey through divorce or separation, just as women have!
Most men have to leave the matrimonial home and start rebuilding their lives while going through grief, after losing everything that was familiar to them (from their favourite chair to the routines and habits they had created in their old environment), often losing the only person who they really used to open up to, losing common friends, relatives and social life that they were used to.
All this while still having to keep on performing at work, keeping their connection to the children (if there are any), navigating all sorts of emotions, turmoil and inner volcanoes…and still being expected to do it with a smile and a light hearted attitude.
No way!!
A woman would never be asked to lose her home, her family and everything that was dear to her without crying or being profoundly upset!
Men are no different!!
Did you know that every day in the UK 16 people commit suicide and that 12 of them are men?
This needs to stop!
Some men try to cope on their own, some have a group of supportive friends who can help, some look also for external help, so they may ask information to people who have already gone through their divorce or/and look on Google and search for things like
- Relationship counselling near me
- Relationship support
- Help for men during divorce
- Separation advice for men
Where friends and family may not have the necessary skills and knowledge to support them, those men will find divorce coaches, counsellors, therapists and different forms of support available to help them.
Finding support during divorce or separation can be the best solution, because you don’t have to suffer alone and carry all the weight on your shoulders.
And you can use this opportunity to improve your life and yourself!
Consider that there are 9 main emotional stages that a man goes through when having to face a divorce (this is NOT a linear process, so you can be triggered and jump back and forth among the different states) which are very similar to the stages of grief.
If you are going through your divorce or separation (or even if you have finished that process but there are still unresolved emotions lingering around) you may be in one or more of these stages:
- Shock
- Denial
- Guilt & regret
- Anger and Resentment
- Bargaining
- Depression/Anxiety
- Sorrow
- Testing
- Acceptance & Hope
During the separation/divorce strong emotions and conditions/situations can occur:
- Emotional pain (Grief/Anger/Sorrow/Frustration/Shock/ Loneliness/Humiliation/Betrayal/Rejection/Injustice/Guilt)
- Emotional dysregulation
- Broken dreams grief
- Uncertainty/Fear about the future
- Childhood traumas resurfacing (I am unlovable/I don’t belong/I’m not good enough/…)
- Depression/Anxiety/Panic Attacks
- Challenges at work (performance) and in social situations (feeling unsociable but still wanting to be around people)
- Physical responses to shock and emotional pain
- Legal and/or financial issues
- Difficulty in believing that things are going to get better.
Consider this: Emotions that are buried don’t die: they fester! So it’s a good idea to work on them and process them, to make sure they will not sabotage your new life and your new relationship!
I have created three options to help you on your journey:
“The Listening Hour”, a 1 hour appointment to help you to get it all off your chest and start seeing the options available to you for your recovery plan, priced at £99.
If you want to dig a bit deeper you should consider the “Man on a Mission: Your Breakthrough to Clarity, Control, and Confidence”: 30 minute assessment, a personalised questionnaire to get to the real issues that are causing your problems, plus the Breakthrough Session (last up to 3 hours) to gain clarity about your situation, enabling you to see things from a new perspective.
It can help in your decision-making processes by weighing options, considering consequences, and empowering you to make choices aligned with your values and goals and it is priced at £900.
I have also designed “The Powerful Man Reinvention Strategy Programme” to support you through your life transition and learn how to go through these situations, so you can find your new sense of direction and purpose.
We will work on the deeper issues that have sabotaged your marriage, so you will be able to deconstruct and rebuild your love life, as well as stopping the pain and creating the new life according to the man you have become.
Among many other things, you will gain:
Enhanced Emotional Awareness and Regulation (to help you see the origins of your emotional reactions and patterns, become more skilled at managing them without being overwhelmed. This leads to fewer emotional outbursts, less anxiety, and a calmer approach to life’s challenges);
Breaking Limiting Beliefs and Patterns;
Reduction of Self-Sabotage (teaching you techniques to challenge and disarm your self-sabotaging thoughts);
Mindfulness & Presence (to help you stay grounded in the present moment. This reduces mental rumination and anxiety about the future or regret over the past. You also become more attuned to your emotions in real-time, rather than reacting unconsciously. This allows you to respond to situations with clarity and calmness).
The Program consists of an initial 30 minute assessment, a personalised questionnaire to get to the real issues that are causing your problems, a Breakthrough Session that lasts up to 3 hours and 10 x 1 hour sessions, using a mix of traditional coaching, energy techniques and healing. It is £3,000 and people say it is truly life changing.
If you want to step up your game, “The VIP Powerful Man Reinvention Strategy Programme” version includes all of the Powerful Man Reinvention Strategy Programme, plus 2 x full-immersion days spent in an environment conducive to deep exploration and introspection and it is priced at £7,000.
If you thought your ex was nagging you, why would you recreate the same situation so your new partner will do the same?
And
As I always say, if you were born a Ferrari, why would you choose to perform like a Fiat Cinquecento??
Send me an email for your complimentary 30 minute chat: I am here for you! Let’s go!
FAQs
Do you feel like your entire world has been turned upside down, leaving you unsure of who you are or what comes next?
This isn’t just about losing a relationship; it’s about feeling like you’ve lost yourself in the process. The pressure to stay strong, keep it all together, and move forward is overwhelming, isn’t it? What if this program could help you find clarity, regain your confidence, and rebuild your life in a way that feels authentic and empowering?
Are you weighed down by guilt, anger, or regret, struggling to navigate the emotional storm of your divorce?
It feels like every decision is loaded—financially, emotionally, and even for your future relationships. You’re trying to make the best choices, but the stress and emotions keep clouding your judgment. What if this program could give you the tools to process those emotions, focus on what truly matters, and start building a future that feels right for you?
Do you worry that you’ll never feel whole again, or that this pain will define you forever?
Right now, it’s hard to see past the heartbreak, the legal battles, and the fear of starting over. But deep down, don’t you want to believe that this could be the start of something better—a new chapter filled with possibility? This program is here to guide you through the tough moments, help you reclaim your sense of self, and create a life you’re proud to call your own.
